The people we choose to surround ourselves with shape our lives. Scripture reminds us:
“Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
— Proverbs 13:20
In recovery and in faith, the company we keep either builds us up or slowly pulls us down.
More Than Words
Not everyone who looks like a “positive influence” truly is. Some people sound supportive but lead us into pointless distractions, prideful comparisons, or negativity. The real test is not what they say, but the fruit of their lives.
I’ve learned — sometimes the hard way — that it’s better to walk with a few humble, steady people than to run with a crowd that looks successful but drains your soul.
Pride vs. Humility
I used to struggle with pride myself. It wasn’t always arrogance; often it was me trying to build up my self-worth by convincing others how capable I was. But pride is a heavy burden.
The turning point came when I began strengthening my connection with God. Trusting Him allowed me to lay down pride and replace it with healthy confidence rooted in His love. I still slip at times, but the Spirit is faithful to remind me to humble myself quickly.
“God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.”
— James 4:6
Letting Go of Control
One thing I’ve also had to accept: I can’t change other people’s pride. I can model humility, but their growth is in God’s hands. My job is to keep working on being a better man than I was yesterday — loving God, working hard, and surrounding myself with those who also seek to live with humility and purpose.
The Gift of Positive Influences
When we surround ourselves with the right people — those who love God, live humbly, and seek peace — our lives change. We find joy, accountability, encouragement, and a sense of belonging. That’s the kind of influence that leads to real growth and lasting happiness.
Prayer
Lord, thank You for the people You’ve placed in my life who push me toward You. Help me to walk with the wise, let go of pride, and stay humble before You. Give me the courage to step away from influences that lead me off track and the wisdom to value those who bring peace and truth. In Jesus’ name, Amen.